At the American Cinematheque honors earlier this week, McConaughey was joined by Hudson and a handful of his other leading ladies, including Reese Witherspoon (who took a selfie with Hudson), Anne Hathaway, Jessica Chastain and Jennifer Garner. His "How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days" co-star took the stage to reminisce about some memories with the actor, including the time the two were getting certified for scuba diving in Australia for "Fool's Gold."
Hudson was having a rough day since her divorce had been finalized when suddenly things changed. “Out of the water pops Matthew -- no shirt, full gear, spits out the regulator," Hudson said. She then went into a full-on McConaughey, Texas drawl impression. It's too good to describe, so enjoy for yourself in the video above.
pAfter Bargain Hunts Tim Wonnacott danced his last, the 12 remaining couples compete. Heidi Stephens watched all the action /p a href="http://www.theguardian.com/tv-and-radio/live/2014/oct/25/strictly-come-dancing-2014-week-five-as-it-happens"Continue reading.../a
Fans speculate about whether the end of Beady Eye could signal an upcoming revival of Oasis by the Gallagher brotherspLiam Gallagher has announced that his band Beady Eye has split up after five years./ppHe posted the news on Twitter on Saturday and thanked fans for their support but he offered no reason why they were disbanding./p a href="http://www.theguardian.com/music/2014/oct/25/beady-eye-split-liam-gallagher-oasis"Continue reading.../a
Fans speculate about whether the end of Beady Eye could signal an upcoming revival of Oasis by the Gallagher brotherspLiam Gallagher has announced that his band Beady Eye has split up after five years./ppHe posted the news on Twitter on Saturday and thanked fans for their support but he offered no reason why they were disbanding./p a href="http://www.theguardian.com/music/2014/oct/25/beady-eye-split-liam-gallagher-oasis"Continue reading.../aimg width='1' height='1' src='http://feeds.theguardian.com/c/34708/f/663828/s/3fd3c3dd/sc/17/mf.gif' border='0'/br clear='all'/
I am a nurse who has just returned to the U.S. after working with Doctors Without Borders in Sierra Leone - an Ebola-affected country. I have been quarantined in New Jersey. This is not a situation I would wish on anyone, and I am scared for those who will follow me.
I am a nurse who has just returned to the U.S. after working with Doctors Without Borders in Sierra Leone - an Ebola-affected country. I have been quarantined in New Jersey. This is not a situation I would wish on anyone, and I am scared for those who will follow me.
After the first chair of the child sex abuse inquiry had to resign, surely her successor had to be beyond reproachpIt is as if Theresa May actively aspired to the kind of immortality conferrable by the popular internet a href="http://knowyourmeme.com/memes/you-had-one-job" title=""meme/a: You had one job. Unless, given that he is said to run everything, credit should go to the cabinet secretary, Sir Jeremy Heywood. To avoid unfairness, maybe they should share with David Cameron the glory of having surpassed every variation on You Had One Jobsince its original manifestation in the 2001 film, emOceans Eleven/em, when a robber curses his dedicated alarm-disablers (a key alarm not having been disabled): You tossers! You had one job to do!/ppEither way, following the resignation, in July, of a href="http://www.newstatesman.com/politics/2014/07/dame-elizabeth-butler-sloss-resigns-head-child-abuse-inquiry" title=""Dame Elizabeth Butler-Sloss/a from her chairmanship of the inquiry into historical child sex abuse, on account of awkward establishment connections, it was paramount for this team to pick a replacement whose loyalties were not in doubt./p a href="http://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2014/oct/25/theresa-may-child-sex-abuse-inquiry-fiona-woolf"Continue reading.../a
After the first chair of the child sex abuse inquiry had to resign, surely her successor had to be beyond reproachpIt is as if Theresa May actively aspired to the kind of immortality conferrable by the popular internet a href="http://knowyourmeme.com/memes/you-had-one-job" title=""meme/a: You had one job. Unless, given that he is said to run everything, credit should go to the cabinet secretary, Sir Jeremy Heywood. To avoid unfairness, maybe they should share with David Cameron the glory of having surpassed every variation on You Had One Jobsince its original manifestation in the 2001 film, emOceans Eleven/em, when a robber curses his dedicated alarm-disablers (a key alarm not having been disabled): You tossers! You had one job to do!/ppEither way, following the resignation, in July, of a href="http://www.newstatesman.com/politics/2014/07/dame-elizabeth-butler-sloss-resigns-head-child-abuse-inquiry" title=""Dame Elizabeth Butler-Sloss/a from her chairmanship of the inquiry into historical child sex abuse, on account of awkward establishment connections, it was paramount for this team to pick a replacement whose loyalties were not in doubt./p a href="http://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2014/oct/25/theresa-may-child-sex-abuse-inquiry-fiona-woolf"Continue reading.../aimg width='1' height='1' src='http://feeds.theguardian.com/c/34708/f/663828/s/3fd3c34f/sc/7/mf.gif' border='0'/br clear='all'/
This week's release of All You Need Is Love (Portfolio Films--www.allyouneedislovedoc.com), narrated by Sigourney Weaver, produced and directed by Stuart Cameron, and featuring the work by California's Muse School, will serve as a wake-up call for Americans whose knowledge of Burma's multiple crises is minimal. Most Americans know Myanmar as Burma, its former and still widely-used name. Some know about Nobel Peace Laureate Daw Aung San Suu Xii, her overthrow immediately after being elected Burma's leader by a military coup d'etat, her house arrest for many years until a recent change in attitude by Burma's military led to her release.
But too few know about the decades-long plight of Burma's ethnic minorities, 300,000 of whom are stateless and living just inside the Thailand border. To say the Thais tolerate the Burmese refugee settlements there is a stretch and they are prone to arrest, fine and sometimes long-term imprisonment. Their education, even when completed, has no status in Thailand and they remain as they started, stateless and invisible. But they are now educated, made healthy by a remarkable health clinic, Mae Tao, run by Dr Cynthia Maung, and ready for much more if things change.
It was in this context that a small group of California educators visited Mae Sot, Thailand and helped strengthen a primary school called Good Morning School. While it is run by Burmese, the California Muse School vastly added value to what is being taught there and to the improved physical plant. These days, a successful school in that region must include health care projects, income generating projects for the children's parents (to avoid their being pulled out of school to work as child laborers) and community-building projects. Rather than emphasize individual achievement as we do in the USA, Muse wisely learned about the Burmese' own sense of community and focused on strengthening programs to build the school as a civil society institution.
Operation USA, for more than 25 years, has occasionally assisted the Mae Tao Clinic but had not encountered its educational partner, Good Morning School. The documentary is instructive, moving and a welcome wake-up call for those who think they know about development projects...there are always...always..better ways to go.
Most people might think if you want to be a gymnastics champion you need legs. But just ask Jen Bricker if that's true. She'll tell you otherwise. "If you're never given limits, you think you can do anything," says Bricker, who because of a birth defect, has no legs. Born in Illinois in 1987, her biological parents feared they couldn't afford the cost of caring for their daughter. So she was adopted by an American couple and raised in Oblong, a tiny town in Illinois. Bricker's loving parents always encouraged her to pursue her dreams and never say the word "can't."
Bricker's dream? To be a champion gymnast. At 7, she started working on the trampoline. By the time she was in high school, she became the power tumbling champion of Illinois, winning the state medal for gymnastics, against those who had had no physical challenges. She has since competed in the Junior Olympics and was a featured acrobat on Britney Spears' Circus tour and performed as an aerialist at Lincoln Center.
When she was 16, Bricker's parents revealed that her biological parents' last name was Moceanu. Yes, Olympic Gold Medalist Dominique Moceanu, Bricker's idol and inspiration to become a gymnast at 7, turned out to be her biological sister. The sisters have since reconnected, are best of friends, and share a very close bond. "When I was younger, people asked if you could magically have legs, would you do it?," says Bricker. " I always came back with the same answer, which was, no." As she further explains, "My entire purpose in life is based on the fact that I don't have legs. I always knew I was supposed to be born like that. This is how I can effect change. I feel blessed that I can use my passion to help and hopefully inspire other people." Bricker now lives in Los Angeles, travels the world performing and is a motivational speaker.
Football governing bodys £20m attempt at a box-office blockbuster is bemusing film with an embarrassing lack of focus on corruption but Sepp Blatter was touchedbr /a href="http://www.theguardian.com/football/2014/oct/17/sepp-blatter-not-serving-football-michel-platini" title="" Blatter is no longer serving football, says Platini/abr /a href="http://www.theguardian.com/football/2014/may/26/eric-cantona-fifa-qatar-world-cup-brazil" title="" Cantona: Fifas corruption divides Brazilian football/apIt is fair to say that Sepp Blatter will not be gatecrashing any selfies at next years Oscars. Indeed, no one involved in Fifas attempt at a box-office blockbuster, United Passions, should be winning awards any time soon. Considering the film tracks the development of a sports governing body, with all the excitement of arranging tournaments and striking marketing deals, that does not really come as a surprise./ppYet at a cost of pound;20m, someone, somewhere, obviously thought documenting Fifas apparent progress through the 20th century over one hour and 45 minutes was a good idea. Perhaps in the gilded corridors of Zurich they still do but the recurring sensation while watching the story of Fifas foundation and subsequent globalisation of football is predominantly one of bemusement./p a href="http://www.theguardian.com/football/2014/oct/25/fifa-united-passions-pr-exercise-sepp-blatter"Continue reading.../a
Football governing bodys £20m attempt at a box-office blockbuster is bemusing film with an embarrassing lack of focus on corruption but Sepp Blatter was touchedbr /a href="http://www.theguardian.com/football/2014/oct/17/sepp-blatter-not-serving-football-michel-platini" title="" Blatter is no longer serving football, says Platini/abr /a href="http://www.theguardian.com/football/2014/may/26/eric-cantona-fifa-qatar-world-cup-brazil" title="" Cantona: Fifas corruption divides Brazilian football/apIt is fair to say that Sepp Blatter will not be gatecrashing any selfies at next years Oscars. Indeed, no one involved in Fifas attempt at a box-office blockbuster, United Passions, should be winning awards any time soon. Considering the film tracks the development of a sports governing body, with all the excitement of arranging tournaments and striking marketing deals, that does not really come as a surprise./ppYet at a cost of pound;20m, someone, somewhere, obviously thought documenting Fifas apparent progress through the 20th century over one hour and 45 minutes was a good idea. Perhaps in the gilded corridors of Zurich they still do but the recurring sensation while watching the story of Fifas foundation and subsequent globalisation of football is predominantly one of bemusement./p a href="http://www.theguardian.com/football/2014/oct/25/fifa-united-passions-pr-exercise-sepp-blatter"Continue reading.../aimg width='1' height='1' src='http://feeds.theguardian.com/c/34708/f/663828/s/3fd3c34d/sc/10/mf.gif' border='0'/br clear='all'/
Tuesday, November 4, is Election Day in America. We all know that voting is the bedrock of democracy. In fact, the word itself means "people power," from the Greek: demos meaning "the people" and kratia meaning "power."
If you want to feel really good on the Wednesday after Election Day, regardless of the results of the vote, wake up knowing that you brought something extra to our national exercise of people power.
This year, take on the challenge of persuading five other women to join you in going to the polls -- women who may think they are too busy, have to pick up kids at day care or just don't think they are interested in "politics."
Women already bring something extra to the voting booth. Women vote more than men in almost every demographic and age group. According to the Center for American Women and Politics at Rutgers, 63 percent of eligible women voted in 2012 compared to 59.7 percent of eligible men. Women vote in greater numbers in off year elections as well.
Women also tend to vote differently than men. The gender gap is the difference between women and men voters in support of a candidate. It is clear that women's votes have determined the outcomes in many recent elections including the election of Barack Obama in 2012 with a gender gap in his favor of 10 points.
But a turnout of 63 percent of eligible women voters still leaves 37 percent of women on the sidelines. That's too many voices to be silent!
Vision 2020, a coalition of individuals and organizations in support of gender equality for women -- in leadership, economic security and civic engagement -- has called for 100 percent turnout of eligible women voters in the year 2020. This would be a fitting tribute to the valiant women who managed to secure passage of the 19th Amendment in 1920, finally adopted into law almost 100 years ago and 133 years after the Constitution was signed.
Many scoff at this goal. "You can't possibly turn out 100 percent of eligible women voters," say some. "That is an outrageous goal," say others. These objections are not new. They are reminiscent of the arguments hurled at Susan B. Anthony, Elizabeth Cady Stanton, Alice Paul and the tens of thousands of dedicated suffragists who fought for women's right to vote.
Yet women's voices mattered then and they matter now. Women voters are not a unified voting bloc. But women do tend to support access to health care, gun control, and providing greater government support, like food stamps and early childhood education, for vulnerable children. These are some of the most important policy issues of our time and women's votes can make the difference.
Let's make 2014 a test run for the goal of 100 percent turnout of women voters in the centennial year of 2020. Let's practice our ability to persuade the women among our colleagues, neighbors and friends who are reluctant, disaffected or just unmotivated to raise their voices and use their votes.
Make a promise to yourself and to our shared future to get five of that missing 37 percent of women voters to the voting booth on Tuesday, Nov. 4.
HARTFORD, Conn., Oct 24 (Reuters) - The extent of Newtown school shooter Adam Lanza's growing rage, isolation and delusions when he was a teenager were apparently overlooked by his mother, psychiatrists and counselors, according to a report expected to be issued next month.
The report found that Lanza, who gunned down 20 children and six educators at the Sandy Hook Elementary School nearly two years ago, did not have to become a violent adult, Scott Jackson, chairman of the Sandy Hook Advisory Commission, said on Friday.
It says better screening and evaluation might have helped detect earlier the 20-year-old's potential for violence. Lanza also killed his mother and then himself in the Dec. 14, 2012 violence.
The information is contained in the soon-to-be released report by the Connecticut Office of the Child Advocate, Jackson said. That report will make recommendations to prevent violence in schools and among youths.
Lanza was evaluated by therapists at the Yale Child Study Center in the years before he entered Newtown High School. Not only was he apparently not properly assessed, but no information from his Yale evaluations was shared with the Newtown school system, which he attended until his mother took him out of the 10th grade and home schooled him.
Jackson said the failure to properly assess the degree of Lanza's mental state as a child and teenager "could have impacted his propensity for violence" as an adult.
Lanza was deemed a special education student, but his treatment apparently failed to address how he could be helped, Jackson said the report indicates.
"Violent tragedies like this one might be prevented in the future by properly diagnosing individuals and getting them the treatment they need," Jackson said.
A spokeswoman for Connecticut Child Advocate Sarah Eagan declined to comment on Friday.
The gubernatorial commission, which was created to make recommendations to prevent violence, had expected to release its own report by now. However, it appears the report may not be available anytime soon since the commission voted on Friday to convene a public hearing in Newtown to gather testimony from local residents and families of victims.
This is the final part of a four-part series on death, and life, and decisions we face going forward into our final twenty or so years. (For the first three parts of the series, go to the Martha Nelson blog on The Huffington Post). As Baby Boomers we have led the way all of our lives. Now we will lead each other to the end of our days, like it or not. We need to talk about it, hard as it is, because talking together may help us to become enlightened as we head into the tunnel.
I remember a good friend saying that there was no way I could understand her life now. She had been diagnosed with cancer, was in a full-on aggressive treatment path, and the prognosis was not good.
"My entire world has changed," she said to me. "Every thought and every day is filled with sickness. I no longer inhabit your world, nor you, mine. I am in the universe of death and dying, and you are in the world of possibilities and life. We're on different planets."
Until I was in her shoes, I could never fully understand, she told me. And I knew she was right. A part of me had been relieved and, yes, quietly grateful, that I had not been on the receiving end of her life-threatening diagnosis. I know we all face death, particularly now that we are in the last one or two decades of our lives, but until the words of a horrible diagnosis are aimed at me, I tend to put it off ---- grateful that I seemed to have dodged the bullet for another day. Carry on and don't buy trouble, I tell myself.
In an attempt to embrace a compassionate spirit, I have entertained the idea, "What if it were me? How would I feel?" But compassion isn't developed that way, I've decided. More than that, I don't believe in thinking or speaking anything into the universe that I don't want to happen. We are what we think about, and what we think about expands, after all.
When illness strikes, I think the most important thing to us is that we are loving and supportive in the lives of those who are struggling, and even facing death. So what do we do?
Be mindful. Perhaps the first thing we can do for our friends and loved ones is to respect their right to privacy. Some friends will want to talk about it all, sharing every detail, while others will need days, or weeks, or even months, before they feel ready to discuss their hopes and fears.
Some may never share at all, which may lead you to think they don't care to have you in their lives. Try not to equate how much they share, or don't share, with how they feel about you. They aren't connected. Each person has their own way of handling the hard stuff --- and it has nothing to do with you specifically, and everything to do with them, specifically. So avoid the temptation to think they don't care to have you in their life just because they don't want to share the intimate details of their illness. Maybe they just don't want to share. And that's just fine.
Try to be mindful of where they are in the process of living and dying, so that they will find your presence a true comfort. "Just let me know when, and if, you want to talk about it," you might say. "I am here, always. Please know that, and call on me when you want a cup of tea, or a shoulder, a hug, or just someone to sit in the same space with you. I am here." Then wait for them to call. Having said that don't disappear from their life.
Stay in touch, gently. I remember reading a true story in a magazine, years ago, about a woman battling cancer. She survived the battle and wrote about what helped her through the long experience of treatment. She said a friendly acquaintance, a neighbor, let her know from the start that she was there for her, but she didn't intrude on her life. Instead, as the ill woman would gather up her mail, she would find a card from the neighbor in the mailbox on the first Monday of every month. Over time the woman said she looked forward to the card, anticipating its arrival.
This dependable steady contact, as she fought her cancer, meant a great deal to her, she wrote. The messages from her neighbor were not long, nor deep. She'd simply write that every day she was thinking of her, praying for her, and wishing she would enjoy the day's sunshine, or snowfall, or warm rain. It reminded the woman with cancer of the sweetness of familiar moments and that brought her joy.
Be faithful. Most of us are inclined to be very concerned when the news of a devastating illness is announced. It is shocking, horrible, and frightening. And we want to help. However, time has a way of nudging us back into our own lives. Often our good intentions to help get lost in the daily demands of our life. Besides, over time the news becomes part of the fabric of our lives and it loses its shocking, frightening nature. Instead, we ask for updates, and listen with a less frightened ear when we hear the latest news of treatment, and hopefully, recovery. We are very human, and our nature is to process, endure and keep going.
Finding a way to stay involved in the life of the temporarily or terminally ill, takes determination and effort. Maybe it's that weekly or monthly card in the mailbox. Or maybe it's a batch of homemade chicken noodle soup left in a basket on the doorstep with a fresh loaf of bread. Perhaps it's the phone call every couple of weeks where you ask not about progress or treatment, but rather, about what they're thinking about and how they feel about their day today. If your friends are readers, they might love to have you come and read to them for an hour or so. Or you may be the one to pick up their medications from the drug store, or be depended on to put out their garbage every Sunday night.
Whatever you decide you can do, I think the small acts of compassion can mean the most. What's most important is that we take the time to stop and think about how we can share our kindness with the ill and dying --- and to their spouses or partners who have the heavy job of care. Just think about what you can do, and then be faithful to that promise to yourself. Don't start something you are not fully prepared to do.
In the end it's about peace. The peace of those who eventually die, and of those they leave behind, is always determined, I think, by how we've lived our life. For me, nothing could be worse than to know I failed to respond to the need of another because I couldn't face it, didn't take the time to think about how to help, or had decided that they didn't care to have me in their life because they didn't call me up and ask for help.
I will always err on the side of stepping back out of respect for the privacy of others. And yet, I know that a card, a written note, a voicemail message, or a pan of hot fresh noodles swimming in butter are ways I can say, "I love you," without intruding on someone's struggle. You'll know what to do when your turn comes. As always, your intentions, your love and compassion, and your faithfulness will be your signature message. And that message is a medicine like no other.
Martha Nelson is an award-winning journalist and a former educator, nonprofit executive, chef, and musician. Her first novel, Black Chokeberry, was published in April 2012 and is available on Amazon.com, or at firstname.lastname@example.org. She currently is at work on a collection of short, and short-short stories, a children's series about the adventures of Lulu, Bart, and Charlie, her beloved dogs, and a new novel.
I was recently having a conversation with a friend about how much the world has changed since the global financial crisis of 2008. The ways in which we spend have changed. We have different attitudes about debt, and even though the job market has improved, millions continue to struggle as wages have not caught up.
Somehow, we began to talk about the dissolution of the financial giant Lehman Brothers. Some argue that was the moment that signaled life as we know it had changed. My friend, like many people, lamented how 'corporate greed' has destroyed the world.
I didn't take on that discussion, but I did share with her a story about a woman I know who worked at Lehman Brothers. I felt the story was a good illustration of why we should not cast anything as 'all good' or 'all bad.'
The story comes to mind as we turn an important spotlight on breast cancer this month.
In June of 2005, Hannah Burns was Managing Director of Corporate Communications at Lehman Brothers, and fulfilling one of her major responsibilities: Getting the company's quarterly earnings results out to the public. As the numbers were being released, Hannah set-up a meeting with her boss -- he believed she was going to update him on the media's coverage of the data. Instead, she had to deliver a far more difficult story.
"I've got good news, and bad news," she told him. "The good news is that it's early and very treatable, the bad news is that I have breast cancer."
Burns describes herself as a private person, but she went straight to her bosses' office when her doctor delivered the news over the phone. "Being in my function I can't just disappear and not tell anybody. I just wanted to get it off of my chest and move on. It was an easy conversation. He was incredibly sympathetic, and shocked."
The fact that this Mother of two daughters had her disease detected early had her believing that she would be able to 'get it off of her chest and move on.' The next few months, however, would prove to be a physical and emotional challenge that she could not have imagined.
Three weeks later, there was the surgery, which was followed by a rigorous four month period of chemotherapy, and bone marrow shots, and then seven weeks of radiation.
In a feat that can be described as nothing short of heroic, aside from a one week recovery period after surgery, Hannah only missed one day of work throughout her entire four months of treatments.
"In addition to wanting to teach my daughters a lesson on how to work through adversity, the firm was so supportive that I wanted to do my absolute best to show my gratitude," says Burns. "The firm said do whatever you need to do to get well. Knowing you've got that support is half the battle."
Not only did Lehman provide Burns with inspiration, but the firm also gave her the flexibility to work through her challenge. She had her treatments on Wednesdays, did not have to return to work, and she was able to come in late on Thursday's. Burns says her worst side effects set in on Friday afternoons, and Lehman allowed her to leave in the afternoon. The company also provided her with car service to and from the office throughout the entire ordeal.
If This Happens to You
One of the many things Hannah taught me was that not everyone -- not even corporate giants like Lehman Brothers -- has all the answers. Hannah simply had to tap into her courage and give the company a blueprint to help her best navigate this challenge. Otherwise, her boss may not have known what to do and there may have been a different result.
If you find yourself trying to work through this situation, here are some tips that may help:
Talk to your doctor before your employer: You need to know what you can expect physically and psychologically, so that you can be clear about your needs to your employer. That way you can come to your boss with a clear plan of action. Hannah, for example, purposely scheduled her treatments on Wednesday's. That way she would have the weekend to recover when the worst of the side effects hit about 48 hours later. She knew she would need Friday afternoons off.
"Work is a very important part of a women's life, and if she can continue to work, she's going to do better, " says Dr. Ruth Oratz, reknowned oncologist and associate professor of clinical medicine at New York University School of Medicine. "But they need to be flexible, and realize that they may have to make some changes." Oratz adds that work is not going to be an option for all women.
Be true to yourself when it comes to talking to your boss: "How much you tell your boss depends on your own personal style," according to Kate Sweeney at Cancer and Careers. "If you have an open relationship, be open. If not, just present the situation, and tell them what you will need." Also, if you have an open relationship with your co-workers, you will likely want to share details of your recovery. If you're more private you may just want to say "I'm doing fine," and don't be afraid to leave it at that."
Find out what your company has done with employees in this situation in the past: This is particularly true when it comes to leave and benefits. You are trying to determine if former policies will work for you. Supposed, for example, you want to work from home, yet you find out this has not been allowed. You want to be able to bring that up to your boss, as something you will need. Maybe your company has never been in this situation before. You need to find out if it is going to be up to you to guide them, when it comes to helping you remain as productive as possible.
Know your legal rights: In the U.S., for example, people with cancer are protected under the Americans with Disabilities Act which gives you rights in the workplace. In addition, protection is provided under the Family Medical Leave Act, which provides 12 weeks of unpaid leave a year. The weeks do not have to be taken consecutively. Human resource departments can be a great resource when it comes to knowing your legal rights. They can also be of great help with your insurer. A company calling on your behalf will likely have a lot more leverage with an insurance firm than you calling as an individual.
Pay attention to how you feel: If you take time off for treatments, you can expect to have a lot of mixed emotions as you transition from patient back to employee. If you don't feel psychologically up to speed, you may want to seek out some counseling, or attend workshops and seminars to refresh your work skills. Physically, take a look at your workspace. Tell your employer if it needs to be redesigned with something like back support.